I made the decision to get back into BDSM when I had been clean of self injury for several years. It was a battle reconciling with the healthy masochist. While self harm literature is far from consensus, there is a pervasive idea that continuing to injure the body in any way is a form of self harm. That the self harmer needs to approach recovery much like an alcoholic in AA, with complete sobriety.
I had spent the prior two and …
Riot Grrrl was a brief movement in the early 1990s which focused on allowing girls to be grrrls. It’s agenda addressed violence and oppression of young women. Focusing on emotional, physical and sexual abuse as well as domestic violence and rape. The movement also address how girls were raised to be complacent about these issues, and in general. This was also at the beginning of the third wave feminist movement which …
One of the primary differences between vegans and vegetarians is that veganism forces the issue of all non-food animal products. While good vegetarians try to avoid leather, and buy cosmetics not tested on animals, this is an expectation with veganism. There are tons of things we don’t often think would be difficult to buy without animal cruelty. As I switched my wardrobe over to fall this seemed like the opportune time to point out a few common hard to find …
Last summer I got into a long standing arguement with a dominant over whether or not recovery was an ongoing process, or is it possible to be recovered. As to remain in recovery focuses on continual progress and growth, though it is also a bit disempowering as it states that one is not “better”, and most likely never will be.
The undercurrent of the past year has been rebuilding my life into something where I feel comfortable and safe. While I …