Over and over again I see this phenomenon, of people listing themselves as switches, when they are really just undecided.  One guy I went on a date with was actually honorable enough to admit this after several hours of discussion,  The topic of BDSM came up  and I started gleefully going on about my love of rope suspension, adversarial play and reminiscing over a recent “mishap” with a pair of pliers.  He started to look uncomfortable and finally said, “really, …