I received this amazing note on Collarme, and I thought it asked some pretty nice questions. The wording of the questions has been slightly changed, and only the questions have been included in this post to keep the author anonymous.
IMPORTANT NOTE: Remember that good old TV saying, “Don’t try this at home”? Well, DON’T TRY THIS AT HOME. I do not claim to be an expert on anything, and I have spent years developing my style of play. If you …
There is a lot written about sub space, as well as top space. Both I find very enjoyable, and they are both unique. However, they aren’t my favorite, and my kind of fun I often don’t see explictly written.
While I enjoy the intense connection from my sadistic little actions to my partners writhing, moaning, screaming reactions. The intense detail, how I can track the response, on the best days predict them. …
I often get asked how does it work with another switch?
It’s simple: we fight constantly.
We’re both D/s, S/m, and insanely aggressive. Verbally and physically. To be clear though we also have a relationship outside the fighting, and with all the things in life that count we agree, really we just like fighting. This is an important note, for all relationships involving BDSM, we actually do care about each other and have good communication at all times even while slamming each …
Over and over again I see this phenomenon, of people listing themselves as switches, when they are really just undecided. One guy I went on a date with was actually honorable enough to admit this after several hours of discussion, The topic of BDSM came up and I started gleefully going on about my love of rope suspension, adversarial play and reminiscing over a recent “mishap” with a pair of pliers. He started to look uncomfortable and finally said, “really, …