There is a lot written about sub space, as well as top space. Both I find very enjoyable, and they are both unique. However, they aren’t my favorite, and my kind of fun I often don’t see explictly written.
While I enjoy the intense connection from my sadistic little actions to my partners writhing, moaning, screaming reactions. The intense detail, how I can track the response, on the best days predict them. …
I said to an old friend last night, “Who would have ever thought I’d turn out to be a pyro?” I was the kid who was afraid to move their finger through the candle flame. In March 2004 I saw my first fire performance, and I was so entranced I just had to learn it. Though I remained tentative around flame. Always taking every precaution possible, and for years never touched it.
Yet on Friday after my performance I was nervous. …
I often get asked how does it work with another switch?
It’s simple: we fight constantly.
We’re both D/s, S/m, and insanely aggressive. Verbally and physically. To be clear though we also have a relationship outside the fighting, and with all the things in life that count we agree, really we just like fighting. This is an important note, for all relationships involving BDSM, we actually do care about each other and have good communication at all times even while slamming each …
I had the fortunate misfortune of getting into BDSM very young. Early on into my first serious D/s dynamic at the age of 19 my dominant partner injured my inner left labia (it’s actually still disfigured). We were also into very rough sex. I started to notice I wasn’t healing, and I was actually continuing to experience swelling. We were using good ole lubricated Trojan condoms.
After awhile I was dealing with painful burning, and swelling internally. We slowed down significantly …
Over and over again I see this phenomenon, of people listing themselves as switches, when they are really just undecided. One guy I went on a date with was actually honorable enough to admit this after several hours of discussion, The topic of BDSM came up and I started gleefully going on about my love of rope suspension, adversarial play and reminiscing over a recent “mishap” with a pair of pliers. He started to look uncomfortable and finally said, “really, …
A lot of new submissives come to me wondering how I handle pain. To approach this topic adequetely it’s important to note why pain is good, psychological mechanisms that keep us from feeling that, the nature of D/s dynamics, and the importance of self study and aftercare.
Pain is good
When in pain our bodies release a host of awesome chemicals on par with some of the coolest drugs out there. There are other things I like about pain, beyond the science …
Until this year when I have been active with BDSM play was a regular part of day to day activity. It would ebb and flow, and the dynamics themselves were very fluid.
Since then I have returned to the scene polyamorous and a busy professional. I currently don’t have a primary partner so I only get time to play occasionally and I play very hard.
I was warned about sub drop, and I swear it was a self fulfilling prophecy, initally I …