I received this amazing note on Collarme, and I thought it asked some pretty nice questions. The wording of the questions has been slightly changed, and only the questions have been included in this post to keep the author anonymous.
IMPORTANT NOTE: Remember that good old TV saying, “Don’t try this at home”? Well, DON’T TRY THIS AT HOME. I do not claim to be an expert on anything, and I have spent years developing my style of play. If you …
I made the decision to get back into BDSM when I had been clean of self injury for several years. It was a battle reconciling with the healthy masochist. While self harm literature is far from consensus, there is a pervasive idea that continuing to injure the body in any way is a form of self harm. That the self harmer needs to approach recovery much like an alcoholic in AA, with complete sobriety.
I had spent the prior two and …
A lot of new submissives come to me wondering how I handle pain. To approach this topic adequetely it’s important to note why pain is good, psychological mechanisms that keep us from feeling that, the nature of D/s dynamics, and the importance of self study and aftercare.
Pain is good
When in pain our bodies release a host of awesome chemicals on par with some of the coolest drugs out there. There are other things I like about pain, beyond the science …