I’ve been going through a lot of transitions in my life in the past few years. Bringing me closer to some things that I care about, and farther away from others. Fire and I had grown distant, and I am making a personal pledge to change that.
I’ve gone back to practicing 3-4 times a week, and recording regularly so I can learn from my accidental coolness, and from my mistakes.
I’m forcing myself to post some of these clips, …
Safety is not a checklist, it is a philosophy. Whether it’s fire or a fist fight I always approach safety from that perspective. The first thing I always keep in my head is that the unexpected should always be anticipated, and can never be known.
Nothing brings this concept to light (har har I made a pun!) quite like fire. Fire is a live thing, it moves, and it breathes. Fire deserves respect, and requires a deep understanding of how it …
I received this amazing note on Collarme, and I thought it asked some pretty nice questions. The wording of the questions has been slightly changed, and only the questions have been included in this post to keep the author anonymous.
IMPORTANT NOTE: Remember that good old TV saying, “Don’t try this at home”? Well, DON’T TRY THIS AT HOME. I do not claim to be an expert on anything, and I have spent years developing my style of play. If you …
Given that we are into knife play, blood play, needles, and very violent fights first aid equipment is necessary whenever play is possible. Even though most of the local dungeons have medical areas that are fairly well stocked, we always bring our own equipment.
Why? It’s the nice thing to do, and sometimes we have been amazed at what venues are out of. Our kit is also what we need for our …
I remember when I was first dipping my toes back into BDSM, and I was trying to imagine what 24/7 would look like. And over the years have had many moments where it felt like I was doing it wrong. Though then I remember a quote from the end of the movie “Secretary” that sums it up well, “All our activities melted into an everyday sort of life… until we looked like any other couple you’d see.”
Our friends even get …
First, after a lot of thinking I decided to bring this site back. I am kinky, it is who I am. I prefer to only behave in a “normal” way 40 hours a week. I’ve never stopped my antics, I just stopped writing them. Which is silly.
Anyways, it’s 2012. Four years ago I knew something was very wrong with my life. I was weeks away from changing my world forever. I had spent the four years prior taking a long …
I made the decision to get back into BDSM when I had been clean of self injury for several years. It was a battle reconciling with the healthy masochist. While self harm literature is far from consensus, there is a pervasive idea that continuing to injure the body in any way is a form of self harm. That the self harmer needs to approach recovery much like an alcoholic in AA, with complete sobriety.
I had spent the prior two and …
This is something I think anyone who has been involved in BDSM for awhile already knows, even if it is only implicitly. However, most articles I find revolve around technique, etiquette and protocol. Trust often comes up in a cursory way as something that is necessary, though not as a core component.
When I started to look for Dominant partners for play I realized I was screening in a completely different way than I had in any other relationship. I knew …
Rainbow Brite had a nice home on my desk, she was the girl of bondage bear, and they were very happy cuddling next to my lamp. One day Rainbow mysteriously appeared on the stairs. A few days later her I found her dress in my bed. She had been kidnapped! Turns out our kitten, Harlequin, aka Little Bit had taken Rainbow to his rape den. All attempts to save Rainbow and return her to mistress Bondage Bear have failed. One …
Swinging is a term that relates to sex. Typically with sex partners who have sex with other people. Swingers actually have their own scene. It’s large, has it’s own events, it’s own clubs. Some of which are nicer than many of the BDSM venues. There are VIP membership only swinger venues, house parties, and open venues.
BDSM on the other hand is, Bondage Discipline Sadism and Masochism. It relates to parties doing these acts on one another. Often in combination. There …