I received this amazing note on Collarme, and I thought it asked some pretty nice questions. The wording of the questions has been slightly changed, and only the questions have been included in this post to keep the author anonymous.
IMPORTANT NOTE: Remember that good old TV saying, “Don’t try this at home”? Well, DON’T TRY THIS AT HOME. I do not claim to be an expert on anything, and I have spent years developing my style of play. If you are curious or have any questions feel free to e-mail me.
You and your s/o literally fight each other with bats?
We don’t use aluminum or wooden bats. Wiffle ball bats are the standard, the thin ones give a nice sting, and the fat ones make an awesome noise and make great marks. We also children’s bats that are foam coated, with some kind of wood shaving core. They can hurt a lot but the bats in all cases are more likely to break before bones.
Carbon fiber rods and knives?
With carbon fiber rods, that’s pretty straight forward. We buy them from hobby shops, we make the short ones that are often for sale at BDSM fairs, but we have also fashioned them into toy sword handles, and left them long so they can be used in fighting.
The knife fights are rather new, we’ve been playing with knives together for 3 years. We both have rather dull knives that we know very well (through hours upon hours of play). So we are more active when we play with them now. But the purpose is not to cut one another. We more play like cats play.
Are there set rules when it comes to this?
Not so much rules, but a lot of information goes into it. We get to know the toys we use over a long period of time. We study up on the materials, we practice, and slowly work up to using them in fights. A good example is we don’t get frisky with new knives. We got some nice new ones in December but they’ve rarely been used because we both need to spend time with them and get to know their weight, the blade curves, and how sharp they are.
Do u guys go to the hospital a lot? Broken bones?
Nope, we’ve never been to the hospital, and no broken bones. I’ve strained a few fingers, and pulled a few muscles, but that’s about it. And some minor cuts, none have required stitches, a few have required a butterfly for a day or two.
We also have a pretty extensive first aid kit.
Seriously WTF, how do you fight with knives without seriously harming each other I find that hard to believe.
Lots and lots of practice, and we avoid the abdomen at all costs. We don’t run at one another with knives, it’s more of a close knit struggle, if there’s a lot of movement we hold them away from the body. We both know to drop them in an emergency, and we both know when we’re caught and any movement is a bad idea. As I said earlier we both know our main knives VERY well. We both have two that we have used for over two years and are pretty dull. As I said earlier we both approach this kind of fighting like two cats playing, the purpose of the “claws” is not to injure. It’s more to find that opening when one of us is trapped, and then get in a little bit of good ole knife play.
We sterilize all of our knives with Cavicide before play, and we never use knives to break skin. Though we sterilize them because sometimes small scratches and cuts happen.
And how do u fight with fire?
We don’t, fire play is more sensual with us. Though sometimes I throw a bit of fear play in. I’ve been a fire performer for eight years, and been doing BDSM style fire play for over three years.
Like a lighter and hair spray?
Never. Hairspray is always a terrible idea. Though I do use isopropyl in a spray bottle, and make fire balls from time to time.
Plus how do u use a knife or scalpel on a loved one.
We do love our blood play. We buy prepackaged sterilized scalpel blades for that, and like with fire there is no fighting involved. The cuts are superficial. He’s a professional body mod artist, and I have had a lot of medical related training, and have been first aid and CPR certified for the past seven years (I actually have my renewals coming up next month).
We also do blood cupping which is a nice combination of blood play and fire play. I make a teeny tiny incision in his back, and light a fire cup and adhere, and suction draws the blood out.
As I said previously we don’t use knives for cutting, knife play is more sensation and fear play based. For blood play everything has to be sterile and single use for use to feel comfortable.
On our first aid kit, just wrote an article on that!
